Whoopi Goldberg: I am responsible for my three failed marriages
Whoopi Goldberg feels responsible for her three failed marriages.
The 61-year-old actress has previously been wed to Alvin Martin – the father of her 43-year-old daughter Alex – David Claessen and Lyle Trachtenberg, and when her final union collapsed in 1995 after just a year, she realised she was the common factor and believed she hadn’t been "really in love" with her spouses, so just wasn’t committed to making their relationships work.
She said: "It took me some time but I realised that trying to turn myself in to something I wasn’t ready for a man wasn’t his fault. It was mine.
"My marriages failed and I was the common denominator.
"My commitment was never that strong. I can say now that I was never really in love. The realisation freed me up."
But ‘The View’ host – who has also had a string of relationships with actors Frank Langella, Timothy Dalton and ‘Cheers’ actor Ted Danson – admits she only regrets the fact she took a long time to realise she should just stay single.
She told the Daily Telegraph newspaper: "I love men and men love me. I’m lucky that way. I just feel bad that it took me so long to realise that I wasn’t meant to be in a relationship."
And the ‘Sister Act’ star found writing a book about her relationship thoughts made her feel better about being single as she let out what she thinks is wrong with love.
She said: "I recently wrote a book entitled ‘If Someone Says ‘You Complete Me Run!’ It’s about what I feel is wrong with relationships.
"My experience over the years is that a relationship requires that you commit to caring what somebody else thinks. But the truth slowly dawned on me that I didn’t really want to work that hard."
And the award-winning star insisted that although she is single, she is very happy and enjoys having a relationship with her daughter and her granddaughters for now.
She added: "I have many relationships – with my daughter, my grandkids, and now my great-granddaughter – and they come first."
